The Essential Key to More Peace in Your Life and Eventually in the World
As we see so much darkness and violence in the world today, we might turn to despair and think we are powerless to face these difficult times.
The biggest key to a more peaceful world, to a more harmonious life is to identify and eradicate the pain, resentment, hatred and violence in our own hearts first and develop an attitude of powerful kindness and nonviolence.
Past unpleasant and painful experiences might have left scars of resentment, hatred and violence in our hearts maybe even without being fully conscious about those feelings. And many of us might have lost connection with close family and friends due to not being able to look within ourselves first and heal whatever pain is lingering there.
Here are 5 ways of eradicating feelings of resentment, hatred and violence in your heart:
1. Forgiving and making peace with yourself
Some people are living in bitterness, hatred and violence in their hearts due to a mistake they might have done in the past. This is characterized by a state of denial, guilt and regrets. For you to be break those shackles, you must learn to forgive and make peace with yourself anytime things fall apart. Always remember that as humans, we are not perfect beings and can possibly offend or be offended. Approaching ourselves with love and kindness can do wonders.
2. Forgiving and making peace with others
Forgiveness is a whole therapy on its own. Defying the odds to genuinely forgive people who deeply hurt you is therapeutic. This is because after forgiving someone from the deepest part of your heart, it feels like a heavy burden has been taken out of your life and that of the person. True forgiveness heals.
3. Engaging in relaxation exercises and positive self-talk
Deep seated resentment and hatred can make one become extremely aggressive and violent which can break you down psychologically, socially and economically. Anytime time the feeling of hate or violence comes to mind due to an unpleasant experience, these four steps can be very helpful.
STEP 1: Sit on a comfortable chair and fix a blow with both hands while putting much pressure on your thumb with your eyes closed.
STEP 2: Make a picture or video of the problem irritating you in your mind.
STEP 3: While the first two steps are ongoing, slowly engage in a deep breathing-in exercise and hold your breath for some seconds.
STEP 4: Begin to concentrate and do a positive self-talk in your brain. For example, I am doing away with hatred, I won’t engage in any violence etc. After saying these words repeatedly for some few seconds. Then you gradually release the tension in your hand while saying that “I am well, I am well, I am free, I am free etc."
You can practice these four therapeutic steps anytime you feel feelings of pain, hatred or resentment coming up. If you are able to do this relaxation exercise properly: acknowledging the negative emotions, letting go of those emotions and replacing them by positive and loving emotions, you will see a positive change in your line of thought.
4. Seek guidance
Try to seek help from a professional if you find yourself in a state of deep pain, hatred and violence because it may lead you into depression. They work with clients/patients under a high level of confidentiality. These professionals are there to guide you take decisions and make informed choices about how to be able eradicate hatred and violence which when vented out would only bring more pain and hurt into your life.
5. Learn from your past and move forge ahead
It is important to look into the future with hopes and not hatred and guilt from previous happenings in your life. Do not let your past slow you, get up and move on with the lessons learnt from it and you will slowly turn your past challenges into a fulfilled life.
It is crucial for us as Humanity to see that every act of hate, every act of violence, is a reflection of the hate and the hurt WITHIN the one committing the violence.
Let's create a world where we look within ourselves, cultivating peace, love and kindness in our own hearts first so that we can share it with the world.
Let's allow the Light within us to shine instead of pointing at the darkness, knowing that every darkness is an invitation for us to shine.
As always, much love, Barbara
